Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Don

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sam wrote at 2009-04-07 17:10:30
I am in the exact same boat as you. My boyfriend and I have also been on again off again for 5 1/2 years. We also live together and have one child together (an 8 1/2 month old baby). I'd say for the first year of our relationship it was pretty rough for us because he is a lot older than me and i had insecurities about our age difference. But the last four years have been relatively stable. I did end up cheating on him about 2 years ago, though, which he found out about and forgave me for. I don't know what it is about relationships. It seems like after a while, you start to lose the magic and it's a really sad thing. I think if you really love him, you will push through and you guys will be together forever. But if you really feel like you need to leave, then so be it? Who says just because you've been together for five years and have a kid together that you have to get married? That's something that society tells us we should do. But if you're both not ready for that commitment, then yes you should leave. Why stay in relationship that makes you unhappy. I think about leaving almost everyday, too. And yes, we fight constantly! I also worry about our son growing up without his father and it makes me sad. It is a lot to think about and you should just follow your heart. Good luck!

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