Expert: Don - 2/19/2008

Question
so i found out that my boy was planning on cheating on me. we had set up a profile on a swinger website (don't ask - nothing ever came of it) and some girl e-mailed him asking if she could just sleep with him because she had no bi-tendencies. he said that our relationship was over, so it was no problem and then "Anyways we should trade more pics and see what happens".

i broke up with him but was i right? i feel kind of conflicted because i don't know if he would actually have gone through it and i love him.

i found all this out because he gave her his real e-mail, she looked him up on myspace and found out that we were still going out. she contacted me thankfully and showed what a jerk he really was.

he said he was sorry, blah blah blah. "it was a compulsion thing for me." granted, this is all from text messages coz i haven't really answered his calls. he'll probably be able to explain it better if i talk to him. but should i even give him that, what's there to explain?

also, he answered her e-mail while i was asleep in his bed and apparently felt guilt-free enough to have sex with me that day.

Answer
It doesn't matter that he didn't get a chance to cheat, the simple fact that he had every intention to cheat is bad enough and it's even worse because the only thing that stopped him is the fact that you found out in advance and that girl was decent enough to let you know how he was.

You should be happy you found out and now and use this is as your opportunity to get out of this relationship. What reason do you have to continue it? You know that he can't be trusted because what's to stop him from doing this again.

Don't let him waste his breath trying to convince you that he wasn't really going to cheat or that it isn't what it appears it was because all that would be lie.

Be grateful you found out now before things got even more serious and leave him alone.