Expert: Don - 2/14/2008

Question
i have found out that my husband of 14 years has got a couple of profiles on the pc on dating and flirting sites and there very upsetting to read(wanting to meet women for sex)i never knew any of this and now i don,t know what to do..as i don,t know if he has followed any of it up.help

Answer
It doesn't really matter if he's actually gone through with it or not, the mere fact that he has these dating sites looking for women to sleep with outside his marriage is bad enough. It's both disrespectful to you and your marriage and even if he hasn't done anything yet, how long do you think it will be before he does go through with cheating.

If you still have access to these sites, you need to print out a copy of copies, save one for your records incase you have to divorce him and confront him with the rest.

You need to make sure he knows it's not okay to have these profiles out there while he is married to you.