Expert: Don - 3/14/2008

Question
Ive cheated on my fiancee and the other woman was calling my fiancee this went on for some time before my fiancee had enough she didnt leave but started acting cold,stop cooking , stop cleaning,stop showing affection, so I did some investigating into this behavior altho in the back of my mind I thought it was because of what I did. I started to check into her and found out she was talking to men on the phone ,men from her past and new men,agin just thinking she mad and wants to hurt me or make herself feel good. We were to be married March 29 I told her I was ready and she says "I was ready 3 years ago and now you are and Im not we were also called for a larger coop and she wanted to go for it and the next day reneged my question is how can someone claim they want to be married wand a bigger place wait all these years and when it finally comes to life you start to play games she says she just needs to clear her head but my conscience causes me to think its because she is torn between staying with me and trying to make it work or start over with someone new I've ended my dealings with the other woman and changed my phone number Iwant to marry her and live a normal life him 40 years old now I'm done!

Answer
It sounds like to me, that she finally got tired of you doing whatever you want and playing all your games and decided to take the relationship in the way she wants it to go. You brought this on yourself by disrespecting her and the relationship by cheating on her and it sounds like now she's making a stand and is making the rules in the relationship now.

She could be doing any number of things, maybe she's found another man and is thinking about leaving him for you or it could be she's thinking that with all your past cheating that she doesn't want to marry you because she'd be in for a lifetime of you cheating on her and she's not interested in that kind of life. Or quite simple she wants you to know what it feels like to be jerked around in a relationship and this is her attempt at revenge.

It could be any number of things, what you need to do is sit her down and talk to her about her actions and why she doesn't want to marry you now and see what she has to say, she has more answers to her actions then I ever could.