Expert: Don - 3/21/2008

Question
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. He had a real rough time with flirting with other girls.  He's made out with a girl almost 4 years younger than him that broke my heart.  It's incredibly hard to trust him.  He works at a YMCA and has met a ton of people, including young, high school girls.  He's already got their numbers and has been talking to them frequently on the phone, almost more than me.  Their about 6 years younger than him.  I feel so weird about it and so does everyone i've told.  I don't know how to explain to him how and why i'm so uncomfortable with it. Heeelp.

Answer
It sounds like your boyfriend needs some kind of help if he's going after girls 4 and 6 years younger than him. If he's a teenager then these girls would have to be as young as 12 and 13 if he's 18 or 19 and not only is that unethical it's illegal and something he shouldn't be doing.

On a relationship side of it, it's disrespectful to you for him to be constantly flirting or kissing other women. As his girlfriend the only person he should be kissing is you. You need to confront him about his actions and get him to stop, or even start looking for another boyfriend and leave this guy alone because he apparently has some serious issues.