Expert: Don - 3/9/2008

Question
I recently met a man whose stories just don't make sense.  We met each other professionally, and he lived in the same building as me. I was seperated but still married.  I started a flirtation with this man, Joe, and he returned the flirtation in a very intense way.  He knew that my husband was trying for a reconciliation, and he told me that had a girlfriend but that lately they were fighting all the time.   i only half believed it, as i never saw a woman coming into  or leaving his apartment, and as he always seemed to be available on friday and saturday nights. Joe and i started a steamy affair; but he always left directly after having sex with me.  joe told me that he wanted to have another child, and he could already imagine us having a child together.  i told him that i didn't want to have a child and that i didn't want to divorce my husband.  joe never wanted to go out to do anything other than sex, anyway, so i had a hard time believing his story. eventually i decided to try again with my husband, who moved back in.  joe became jealous and called constantly, and would come by to visit and seduce me, but once the sex was over he was too.  whenever his phone would ring he would leave.  once he actually answered the phone and had a conversation with a woman in spanish about her going to school.  when i gave him a look he told me to relax, that it was just his 16 yr old niece.  but why would an uncle talk to his niece at 8:30 on a wednesday night, and why would he tell her to call back tomorrow after school?  eventually i became suspicious, so i contacted joe's ex-wife, a woman i had never met before.  she informed me that joe was still married to her and refused to divorce her, and that at the same time he told her he had a five month pregnant girlfriend.  when i heard this i immediately broke up with him, and he pursued me for two months.  he told me that his girlfriend was pregnant, but he didn't know how far along because she was fat.  
he is still pursuing me, maintaining that his girlfriend is still pregnant and that's the only reason he is still with her.  i have divorced my husband, but don't trust this man.  what is his deal?  is he cheating all over town, or just with me?

Answer
Well he definitely is cheating all over town. On record he's sleeping with you definitely, possibly sleeping with his ex wife and definitely sleeping with his pregnant girlfriend. Tell this guy to leave you alone, he definitely can't be trusted and he's not some you want to be involved in. It seems like he's only using you for sex anyway because she keeps leaving as soon as the sex is over, stop wasting time with him, cut him off completely and don't let him in your life anymore.