Expert: Melissa Durazo - 3/25/2008

Question
hey dennis. theres this guy at school i like and im pretty sure he likes me back too. cuz we always flirt. so anyway he has a long distance girlfriend back home she visits him every month, she flies 1000 miles to see him because she is in a different country.

but well we've been flirting a lot, well initially it was me always going up to him and talking to him about bands and music i like, etc. because i know he likes the same songs. and i know his girlfriend isnt into that stuff.

so one day we were talking in a group of people and i accidently let it slip to him that i enjoy watching porn.

for the rest of the day i saw him looking across at me with this HUGE grin on his face.

when he sees me he ruffles my hair. and the other day i was wearing this sexy dress and i saw him gazing at me from across the parking lot with this intense look.

its sooooo obvious that we want each other. but dammit he has a girlfriend.

how do i get him to leave his girfriend for me?

oh yeah, and what was with the huge grin with the watching porn thing. most women watch porn. so why was he grinning all like that.

Answer
Why would you to like to hook up with someone who is attached to another person? I understand, he has been flirting with you lately and his girl does live over 1000 miles away. But, that does not justify what your intentions are. It is obvious that he wants you. Now, whether it's for a relationship or a one night stand is not quite clear. And, any guy who is aware that a chick likes to watch porn is expecting or has this vision that his chick will perform like a pro once he gets her into bed. Also, it is obvious that you are doing your best to attract him to you.
It is better to allow him to break off the relationship first before becoming involved. You wouldn't want to be known as the one who broke up their relationship. And, be aware that there is a possibility, that if he could stray so easily from his current girlfriend, he could easily stray from you once you have him.
I don't condone stealing another chick's man. But, if you must do it, do it smart and don't be the cause of the break up. Be the one he runs to when he's on the rebound, if you want. But, allow HIM to break it off on his own. So, that there isn't any misunderstanding, no doubts and your good rep stays intact.
Good luck & take care!
~ M