Expert: Don - 3/27/2008

Question
My boyfriend dosen't know that I have his email password, I check it out and saw he has been emailing and talking with a woman, they have been sending pictures, and getting to know each other.  He hasn't mentioned to her about me or that he is in a relationship.  Does he like this attention, or is he bored,  not into me?  We have been together for 4 years,(hes 33, im 29) he says he loves me, compliments me, he talks about us as a future, getting a house and so on. He seems he wants to have a relationship with me. That is why I am shocked that he is starting this emotional affiar.  I had caught him doing this about 2 years ago, so is this a weakness of his.  I had talked to him about this before. I need outside advice.
Thank you
Shannon

Answer
It's a weakness of yours not his, you caught him 2 years ago and you stayed with him so now he thinks he can do it whenever he wants and even if you catch him you aren't going do anything to stop him from continuing to talk to these women. His actions are both disrespectful to you as a person and to your relationship as a whole, you need to confront him with this information and make plans for him to either stop for good with no more chances or to end the relationship because he's going continue to do these things as long as you do nothing to stop him.