Expert: Don - 4/6/2008

Question
So, I'll first admit that I did a bad thing. I went through his phone when he wasn't around. We've been together for 2 months, but it seems like a lot longer, and everything seems pretty perfect. We met online, and he moved across the country to be with me, and also because his life was at a dead end where he used to live.

Back to the issue though. He asked me to put his phone on the charger while he's at work today, so I came back to his house and did that. He's only working for 6 hours today, so rather than drive back home (half an hour away) and then drive back to get him after he's off, he said it was fine if I just stayed at his house, play video games or watch movies or whatever.

Well, curiosity got the best of me, so I went through his phone. I found all these naked pics of a girl he used to know online, they were "together" for like 9 months, before I met him, but he's always told me she was a crazy psycho and he was done with her before he met me.

Well, these pics are in his saved pictures, and the dates on them are a few days after I started talking to him online. He had always told me that he wasn't talking to her after he met me, but these prove different. And now that he's here and we're together, why does he still have them? Should I confront him about it? I have trust issues from years of bad relationships and a bad father/daughter relationship, but this seems like something I should worry about.

Answer
I think you should confront him about it because it's disrespectful to both you and your relationship for him to continue to keep naked pictures of a lady he had been involved with previously.

If he is truly into you and the relationship he should have no need for those pictures as he should be more than happy to be with you and not need any pictures to remember past relationships.

You should definitely question him about the photos as it is something you should be concerned with.