Expert: Melissa Durazo - 4/10/2008

Question
Hi,

I'm interested in this man. But he has had like a million girls because he used to be a pro athlete and I am a virgin. I don't think he knows I am a virgin, he knows I enjoy erotic material, such as read adult magazines, watch porn movies, etc so I guess that piqued his interest, I mean come on most girls aren't into that stuff. Or at least they won't admit it openly. So maybe he thinks I am a sexual person when it's quite the contrary? Not sure.

People have told me that he feels very passionately about me and that I'm quite a lucky lady.

What exactly do they mean by 'passionate'? does that mean he just wants to have sex with me? or he really likes me. not sure.

thank you.

Answer
Well, it all depends on what he defines as "passionate".....
It's hard to tell what his intentions are. Has he taken you out on dates? Have you and him spoken on an intimate level? Has he made it clear to you that he wants to get to know you better?
You have to take into consideration what type of friendship you have with this man. Are you just an acquaintance? Are you close friends? Do you run in the same circle of friends.....?
It may be possible that he believes that you may be a dynamic person in bed,due to your choice of erotic entertainment. But, who knows? Perhaps, he sees you as a great girl he really wants to get to know.
Don't go by what people tell you.......Sometimes, people have a way of making things out to be more than it is.....Why don't you go directly to him and find out what he feels or thinks of you?
Men who just want to have sex with you, will do anything to get you to fall for them. Even, make you feel like you are lucky they have chosen you. Since, you haven't had that much sexual experience......It's best to take things slowly - unless, of course, you are dying to get it over with......Just don't let him fool you into giving up something you aren't ready to give up just yet.
Just be open with him and honest about yourself. If he truly likes you, he'll appreciate you a lot more, than if you were throwing yourself at him. Perhaps, the allure he feels for you could be because you aren't throwing yourself at him like the other women in his life.....That really gets a guy's attention when a woman just doesn't fall over him like the others do. It shows that she is confident with herself.
All I can tell you is that you may need to scratch this guy's surface  a little bit more and get to know him better. And, get to know him on a more personal level.
Take care & good luck!
~ M