Expert: Don - 4/7/2008

Question
I have BEEN SERIOUSLY INVOLVED WITH THIS PERSON FOR OVER 12 YEARS.  come TO FIND OUT THROUGH MY OWN DETECTIVE WORK HE HAD BEEN CHEATING LAST YEAR...PERHAPS FOR SOMETIME. I CONFRONTED HIM With Tangible evidence, etc.  he finally admitted that i was right.  At the time, i chose to remain in the relationship as there was so much time invested.  i thought this was a bump in the road and we would try to get past it.  however, i come to find out he is up to the same behavior with not one but 2 other women who works in his school an one, the parent of a child in his class. my question is twofold:

how do i even try to understand this an how do i go from here.

thank you

Answer
It's pretty simple to understand, you're dating a cheater who doesn't respect you or the relationship, if he did he wouldn't continue to cheat on you constantly.

And what you need to do is get unattached from this guy, he already thinks that you won't leave him and he can cheat whenever he wants and you will do nothing about it. He thinks this because he was already caught cheating once and you did nothing to punish him so now he thinks he can do it whenever he wants without fear of you leaving him. So he's going continue to cheat until you do something to stop him.

Your best bet is to find away to break up with him and move on with your life, if you don't he'll just continue to cheat because he knows you'll do nothing to stop him.