Expert: Don - 4/15/2008

Question
ive been going out wihtmy boyfreind for 2 months now and i have kissed
several other guys..he knows about most of them but recently i madeout with
2 guys and since then have felt very guilty. i love him and only did it because
i was drunk, he is very unlikely to find out so if i dont tell him he wont be
upset but i will feel guilty and hate lying. however we love eachother and i
dont want to hurt him or myself, so should i forget it forgive myself and try
not to do it again or blurt out a confession to him, lose all the freinds ive
made through him and break his and my heart?

Answer
You can't keep using the excuse that you were drunk to justify kissing random guys over and over, you can do it once or twice but if you keep getting drunk and making out with people, it probably means you have some kind of drinking problem and a lack of control that you should get some treatment for.

As far as telling him, if you are sure that you won't do it again, then forgive yourself and keep it quiet but if you know it's a major problem and you'll continue to cheat, then I would tell him and then get some kind of help with your problem with staying monogamous.