Expert: Don - 5/20/2008

Question
QUESTION: If my boyfriend asks my best friend to flash him, and she has no problem doing it. After she does and he asks again, and she flashing him again OVER WEB CAM! Is that cheating? Was that him cheating on me?

ANSWER: It's not technically cheating because he didn't do anything physical with her but it is very disrespectful to you and the relationship for him to ask your friend to flash him. It's even more disrespectful to you that she did it because she's suppose to be your best friend.

You need to correct both of them before it leads to more and stop them from doing it before you end up losing your boyfriend and your best friend.

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QUESTION: your boyfriend puts his head on your best friends lap, and she doesn't care, plus she likes it. And she has always been putting moves on hem since him and I started dating(2 years), what should I do? I have already said for her to stop. She thinks that she is doing nothing wrong.

Answer
Tell your boyfriend to stop putting his head in her lap because it bothers you, also you might want to keep these two away from each other. They appear to be way to close, they might even be fooling around with each other behind your back. You should confront your best friend about her actions.

Just tell her, you know she thinks she might not be doing anything wrong but it makes you feel uncomfortable and if she is a real friend, she'll stop doing it because it hurts you for her to let it happen.