Expert: Don - 5/5/2008

Question
I have been with my now wife for 4 years and I love her very much.  She is the only woman I have ever been with and lately I've had thoughts wondering what another woman would be like.  I have always had a curiosity about sex.  I'm not sure what to do, I kind of want to know what it would be like to be with another woman, but I don't want to cheat on my wife.  I know she doesn't like porn and I have an addiction to that too.  I feel really guilty for even thinking about this.  What advice can you give me?

Answer
If you're this guilt ridden over just thinking about cheating then I advise you not to cheat because you'll only end up getting caught or becoming so guilty that you confess what you did to your wife. And you don't want to risk your marriage especially if you really love your wife over a fling.

It takes a certain kind of person to cheat on their wife and you appear to be to friendly and loving to get away with it. To teach you have to have no conscience and since you're already bothered by just the thought of cheating, actually doing it will be way to difficult for you to pull off.

I suggest you stay with your wife, maybe talk to her about trying new things when it comes to your sex life, but definitely don't cheat because it can only end badly for you.