Expert: Don - 6/9/2008

Question
I've been with my boyfriend on and off for about a year and a half. We've been having problems lately and I was trying to make things better, most of our problems had come from my insecurities and I was trying to fix things. He says that I nag and complain about things that aren't worth fighting over. So he went to a concert and by me trying to make things better in our relationship I kept my mouth shut and I didn't complain or nag, I didn't even call him that night. I found out the next morning, he kissed his ex-girlfriend, or thats all i heard they did. I am so furious and so betrayed I can't believe he could do this to me. And on top of the cheating he lied about it for so long. I want revenge but at the same time I want to be with him, were still in love and want to be together but there are going to be so many trust issues. I don't know how to forgive him, or if I should, How do you know if he's truly sorry?

Answer
You don't know and you never will, you just need to make a decision right now for your future.

If you think that he is truly sorry, then you need to forgive but don't forget and continue to try and work on your relationship, just let him know he's used up his one chance to mess up and if he does it again it's over for good.

If you don't think he's sorry then you need to break up with him now because you'll never be able to trust him again and a relationship can not work if the people involved don't trust each other.

So pick one of those options and follow it, just make sure either way that he doesn't make a fool of you.