How to Deal With Cheaters/What do i do?

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Expert: - 6/21/2008


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My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. I am 17 and she is 15.  I haven't been the best boyfriend toward her because I have never dealt with real love. She has recently cheated on me with a 47 year old man and she says she still loves him. We have decided to work it out. I do not know what to do next and I have no idea if I am wasting my time. This has really opened my eyes on a relationship.  This is really tearing me apart, but I have no idea what to do.

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Well, I can honestly tell you, this is not a healthy relationship.....This little love triangle is not good. And, as for your 15 yr. old girlfriend getting involved with an older man - old enough to be her father - that in itself is pretty sick. This other man is a pedophile and he is taking advantage of your girlfriend.I do not believe you and her are mature and ready for a serious relationship. You need to figure out what you want in your life. And, at your age, getting involved with someone who is not emotionally capable of taking responsibility for their part in a relationship is not a way to start off a relationship. I know it hurts, but it is better to know now that she is not for you, than for you to hold on to someone who really isn't taking you seriously......And, as for that child molester, he should be reported to the cops.....
Good luck.......
~ M

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I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue. I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.

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I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......

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