Expert: Melissa Durazo - 7/15/2008

Question
What would happen to a relationship, where the guy has been perfect, then he played strip poker?

The boyfriend was out with his buddies, and with a lack of good judgement, decided to play strip poker with 2 of the other guys and 2 girls he will never see again. After feeling incredibly guilty, the guy told his girlfriend, whom he had always been great to and never done anything like this whatsoever. The guy would never do something like this ever again. Could this relationship still function? and if so, could it jump back to the level it was before the mess up? how do things move forward from here?(also, there was absolutely no touching in the game whatsoever, the guy made sure of that.)

I'm the boyfriend in this scenario.

Answer
At last an honest guy who won't keep, even if sounds miniscule, a thing away from his girl!!!
I honestly, don't see anything wrong with what you did. You were having a good time, not at your girl's expense, of course. And, you were being responsible for your own actions. Had you been touching each other or kissing or sharing a bed or a shower together as part of the game, then it would have been inappropriate....But, you made sure that you knew what you were doing and, although, strip poker is not the game of choice one should play with out their significant other.....I think you did ok.
You were honest with your girl and she should consider herself lucky she didn't hear it from somewhere else - which I'm sure it would have been the exaggerated extended version......
Sometimes, guys - and, girls - do some pretty crazy stuff when we're out with our buddies.....But, as long as you were the one being the responsible one. I really don't see the wrongness in what you did. You were having fun.....It's done and over with.....You were not cheating.
But, I don't suggest you do it again anytime soon.....
You were honest and you wanted your girl to know it. And, I commend you for that......
Give her time.......I'm sure she is angry about it - actual, she's probably more hurt than anything - I mean, would you enjoy her showing her goodies to strangers when you're not around? Put yourself in her shoes and realize that although, you did nothing really wrong, it was still a little wrong in her eyes...But, all you have to do is reassure her that she is the your one and only....And, next time, when ever you want to play crazy games with your buddies, invite her along.....
Good luck and I hope she can see past this.....Because, any other guy, would have never told her. She's lucky to have an honest guy who at least cares enough to fill her in on things that happen when she's not around......
~ M