Expert: Don - 8/26/2008

Question
ive been with my boyfriend for the past 4 months, he is 19 and im 21. he has and 8 month old son. during our first month i cheated on him as it was hard to deal with a child and his ex. aswell as his overbearing family. i told him 2 weeks later and we remained together. but i found out that he had had sex with his ex and kissed another girl after that. he said that it was a drunken kiss thats all, and that the sex with his ex was that she was all over him and he said no pushed her off but she kept going so he just laid there. he said he felt guilty and that he wants me and realises he loves me. ive agreed to take him back under certain rules so he can earn my trust back, but im scared that he will get sick of it and just leave and i just cant get it out of my head at all.

Answer
You're right if you keep rules on your relationship or don't trust him, he is going eventually get tired of it and end up either cheating again or leaving you.

If you truly want to stay with him then you have to let it go because if you don't the relationship will end anyway because he's going get tired of your mistrust and it will end. So if you feel you can never trust him again, just break up with him and move on because if you don't you'll end up losing him anyway.