Expert: Melissa Durazo - 8/5/2008

Question
Hi Melissa, thanks for taking the time to answer my question.

I have been dating this guy named Killian for the past year. We met at a gymanstics camp in Tennessee in '07. I live in Florida and he lives in Indiana but we decided to date because we really liked each other. We both spent about 5 weeks together about a month ago and everything was great. But after I left he changed. He is ignoring me now, and we dont talk half as much. [We used to webcam every night but he says he is too tierd now]. Recently I found out that he cheated on me. I confronted him about it and he told me that he only did it because he couldnt get in touch with her to break up. But his friends tell me that he flirts with girls a lot and I noticed that he comments girls facebook pics saying that they are gorgeous. I don't know what to do anymore. I truly love him but I think that our relationship is going nowhere. I trusted him so much but people are telling me that he is doing things he shouldn't be doing. What is your take? Any advice on what to do? Thanks.

Answer
Well, sometimes, guys are pretty complicated. And, what they might want one day, they can easily not want the next day. And, having a long distance relationship makes things even harder - even with the all the technology to keep in touch.
Personally? He is doing you a favor, because you deserve better than what he is giving you. You are young. Enjoy it! You really don't need all this drama glooming over you. And, if he is ignoring you, don't let him make you feel like you are any less of a person. Be strong. You don't need some guy to validate that you are special. I think you are stronger than that. And, I know you will stand up for yourself. And, in the long run.....Letting him go is going to be the best thing you ever did. Because it leaves you open for better things that are coming into your life!
Take care & good luck!
~ M