Expert: Don - 8/31/2008

Question
Im 26 and my girlfriend of just over a year is 18.  We met at college.  It doesnt feel a bit like were 8 years apart, she has always liked older guys anyway.  Everything has been great up until about july - a month and a half - when she stopped being physical with me, and stopped telling me random 'i love you's'.  Naturally, we had a discussion about the lack of affection and she explained that she has a lot of stress on her.  Its true, her and her mother have no money and this has been going on for a while, she tells me that she is having a hard time ignoring it anymore, and that she can't feel horny because of the stress of worrying about her living situation.  
She says that she wont kiss because of this either.  Hey, it makes sense, but there is this part of me that asked her, 'do you think maybe you just cant find a way to tell me that you just dont have feelings for me?"  she says no, and that she still loves me.  
The problem of course is that while i realize that she has stress, a part of me worries that she is realizing she needs to grow and move on.  We try to talk about this but she says that is not the case.  I love her...but i am starving for affection.  She used to be very affectionate

I have a big sex drive, and I am constantly thinking about cheating on her with this other girl.  I also met her at school.  If i did actually start hanging out (she wants to) with her i don't know what she would say.  If i did cheat Id probably tell her my situation to avoid the militant mistress syndrome, but i am not sure how to address the topic.  Like, say, tell her my situation and hey i just want to bang you- stay away from me when im with my gf?  We get along and id be worried that she might be disgusted in me for cheating in the first place!  I wonder how to broach this and figure out how to play the situation if at all.


Answer
Just approach her with it, she's either going to be into it or not. If she isn't you lose nothing and if she is into you hit the jackpot, because you've found a woman who is willing to give you sex without the commitment.

Just be bold with her, you know that she already wants to hang out with you, so she's probably willing to get down, so just go with it.