Expert: Don - 8/3/2008

Question
I have been living in with my boyfriend for almost six months now.  He showers me with so much emotional love and material gifts that I couldn't ask for more.  He owns a manpower recruitment business.  We have a very active sex life.  Modesty speaking, I am very pretty(as what people usually tells me), a head turner I must say.  He's not at all good looking.  I fell in love with him because he treats me like a queen and is really very responsible.  He gives me all the things I need.  I didn't even thought that he's capable of cheating on me since I know how he loves me and our sex life is really really active....until yesterday afternoon.  We just got back from a trip together.  I accidentally found inside his wallet a mercury drug receipt(dated July 17,2008-the time i was out of town to check on my ailing mother), with flanax,rogin-e and flagystatin suspension purchased.  As a nurse, I know what all these medicines are for...I was really shocked and hurt.    Then, I checked my calendar.  I got back July 19 and on the 22 or 23rd of july, I started to feel like I was having UTI.   I told him about it and asked him to buy me some medicines.  I never thought that it could be more than UTI til yesterday.  That's probably the reason why even if I already finished taking the antibiotics for five days now, the burning sensation and the uncomfortable feeling is still there.  I even remember seeing his penis a bit swollen the day I arrived and he said he might have just cut it while he was shaving his pubic hair.  Since I trust him so much, I didn't see it as a big deal.  When I showed him the receipt yesterday, he reasoned out that it was not for him..that he bought it for his employer...but I doubt...Then, I left the house and stayed in a hotel...Till this very minute i'm still staying in the hotel...He kept on calling and texting but I feel that I have already lost all my respect and trust for him.. When I answered one of his calls, he gave me another lame excuse...that ke kept the receipt for filing purposes....I never thought he would never cheat on me...I have treated him so nicely and took very good care of all his needs....emotional, physical.....Even his friends envy him for having me...But it seems that I was not yet enough for him after all...He kept on begging me to talk to him but I just couldn't bring myself to the idea of seeing him for now...I feel so betrayed and dirty...I will go to my ob-gyne tomorrow.  I will submit myself for laboratory tests since I continue to feel this uncomfortable feeling on my lower abdomen...I guess, I might have gotten a sexually transmitted disease from him....Should I still give him a second chance?

Answer
If I were you I wouldn't give him a second chance because he's endangering your life with his actions. It's bad enough that he is cheating on you, but he makes it worse by the fact that he isn't even using protection while he is cheating and that is a risk to not only his health but yours as well.

If I were you I wouldn't trust him and I wouldn't have respect for a man who not only cheated but also put your life and health in jeopardy.