Expert: Don - 9/25/2008

Question
I knew this was coming to be honest, but i never knew i would be this bad. Im 16 years old, a virgin and in my first year at college. Ive been seeing this guy liam whos now 18 for about 6/7 months now on & off between me having other boyfriends and the spark between us when we get to see each other is amazing, i truly cannot resist him the slightest. Recently we was fine, and almost ready to finally settle down. But then i started college and met james whos just turned 17. he is honestly the sweetest guy ive ever met and really made me have doubts about liam, as he'd hurt me in the past but made up for it. James then started flirting with me in college, and i reacted to it. Eventually i gave in to him when he asked me to be his girlfriend. Happiness and excitement rushed through me as i hadnt had a boyfriend for about 2 months before, it was nice. but also guilt ripped through me like anything. all i could think about was liam and how he'd react. for the first 2 days of being with james, i didnt tell liam i was with him and tried to keep it quiet. but he found out and confronted me and we had a huge argument. eventually i found out he was annoyed with me because he still liked me alot, and missed me too. Now its getting even harder as liam knows how much i want to have sex with him as my emotions are just getting worse. Hes said to me he wants to see me just to sort this out, but he brought sex up and i agreed. im scared at the fact of cheating on james because i dont want him to find out as it would hurt both of us alot, but then all i can feel is the risk of getting cauggt exciting me more than anything. i just need some kind of advice as what to do right now, im so confused but i have fallen for both boys like mad.

thank you :)

Answer
I can't tell you who to choose but I can give you some advice.

If you want a life of adventure and possibly be hurt by his actions then choose Liam.

If you want a life with a stable caring guy but who might also bore you a little choose James.

Whatever life or personality better suits you then pick that guy.