Expert: Don - 9/12/2008

Question
I have been with this guy for a few months, we were in the "talking" stage for a very long time and finally made it official not too long ago.

Since I moved in with my dad I have been having more and more problems with guy. He claims he loves me, and I love him so much. But I almost never see the guy, its been about three weeks since I last saw my boyfriend.

But the problem is that we never see each other, if it was a good week i'd see him once or twice, any EXTREMELY good week was three.

He tries to keep in contact by calling me nights he can, and we're usually texting. But the whole, not seeing him thing Is really really getting to me. I find myself jealous of his friends because he sees them more than he sees me. I feel like he cam make time for them but not for me.

And when I confront him about it he says that its because all his friends have cars and they pick him up at his house. And he blames me in part because I have never randomly shown up at his work when he gets off shift so that we can hang out. Now, i'll admit that I haven't exactly done my part in keeping us together, but I have my reasons for that.

It kills me that he sees his friends so often and not me, and on top of that he will almost never text me when he's with his friends. As if he's embarrassed by me, if I text him, he won't reply.

If we're texting and he randomly stops replying I can almost always assume that its because he's with his friends. He'll sometimes go out of town and not tell me, he'll be out of contact for a while and I won't hear from him the till next evening.

I don't know what to do, his on and off attitude messes with my head, sometimes he's perfect, so sweet and kind. But when he ignore me that way it really messes me up.

I've talked to him about it and things haven't changed.

Should I dump this guy or try to make things work?

Answer
Since you have talked to him and he refuses to make any changes, I would suggest you dump him. It's obvious that he doesn't really love you because if he did, he wouldn't put his friends before you and he would make more of an effort to spend time with you. So leave this guy alone.