Expert: Melissa Durazo - 9/5/2008

Question
My boyfriend and I are from two different parts of the world and twice when we've been separated I've made out with the same guy. Only for a brief moment and I've told my boyfriend both times. Kissing is not a bit deal to me, but it is to him. I honestly did not mean the second time but I was very drunk and was weak (I know it's not an excuse) and I've really felt a shift in him since I've said this. I think I may have truly broken something. How do I fix what could be broken in our relationships? I truly love him but I'm a bit more open minded when it comes to sexuality I suppose.

Answer
I think that perhaps, you should sit down and have a serious conversation about your relationship with your guy. Lay down some grown rules and boundaries of respect for each other. Open up the communication gap between the both of you. And, learn where you each stand with each other.
If you truly wish to fix your situation with your guy. The only way to do it is to stop cheating on him and regain his trust.
Kissing may not be a big deal to you, but, if you're in a relationship with someone, there has to be mutual respect between the both of you. And, you aren't showing your guy any respect by kissing other guys.....
Take care & good luck....
~ M