AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question Hi,I am 23 and I have been in love with a girl for almost seven years.she has been everything for me.my friend,my parent,my life.all of a sudden she told me toady that she will have to leave me due to her family.she says that her family members wont accept me.this is a blow for me.I dont think I will survive for long.Why do people leave you to die after loving you so much ? Have you an answer ?
Answer First off, although it feels as if you are going to die....The reality is, you will over come this pain. The end of a relationship is like a death. You will go through a process of hurt, denial, anger, bargaining and acceptance. You will grieve it, mourn it and it will effect you like a death. I am sorry your heart has been broken. It is quite a blow when it comes out of left field like that. And, although you feel as if you aren't going to survive this pain....You need to realize that things happen in this life we have no control over. You can only be responsible for yourself and your actions. You committed yourself for 7 years to this girl. Practically your whole youth. Of course, you are attached and in pain because it has ended so abruptly. It may feel like the world is coming undone. Just remember the world will go on with you if you let this sorrow suck you in. Don't let that happen to you. Take this time to focus on yourself. Set new goals and wants for yourself. Take care of YOU first. You deserve to be happy in life. Do the things you didn't get to do when you were with her. Change your life. One day you will meet someone who will appreciate you for you and not care what others think about them fro being with you. You will be unconditionally accepted and loved. But, until then. work at having a better outlook on life and stop being so co-dependent on someone who was not meant fro you. Become independent and find your way in the world....Your heart and soul will appreciate it in the long run....And, if you still feel like you can't get out of your depression, I suggest you seek counseling to help you manage your feelings and set you on the right path. Remember to surround yourself with friends and family who love and care about you. Remember, YOU come first when it comes to being happy....
Good luck,
~ M
