AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question Alright I'll take this from the TOP.
I am 17 years old and I met a really great guy who I am happy, but bored with. He is a very sweet and stable guy who is also very supportive.When we first got together we agreed on not having a relationship, but now its like we've been dating for the past 7 months..he has also talked about perusing a relationship with me. However, I am starting to have feelings for a past fling, and I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. He has asked me countless times to hook up and I never give him a straight answer. I have an undescribable feeling about this. If i stray from the guy I've been seeing, it would only be for a hookup instead of a relationship. But if i do stay then I feel as though I am missing out on an opportunity to finish unfinished business.
What should I do?
Answer It seems like you just answered your own question. You don't want a relationship. And, you're entitled to have those feelings. If you are not ready to commit, then it is best to be honest with him. Since, all you have done is dated for 7 months, and no real commitment was set in concrete, you at least owe it to him to let him know that your feelings are different towards him and that you would rather not waste his time trying to make something work that you know in your heart is never going to happen. Be honest. Just let him know that you aren't ready for a commitment at such a young age. And, although he may not see it now, in the long run, you will have done him a huge favor.
Good luck.
~ M
