AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, I love him and care for him but I'm just not sexually attracted to him anymore. So about a year ago I meet this guy that is so handsome and he gets me in the mood everytime I see him. He has his girlfriend and I have mine boyfriend, but we are just really attracted to eachother and would love to try to work out this relationship but not sure if we can both trust eachother. I love him and he says he loves me. What should I do, who should I be with??
Answer Hi Julie,
If your new Mr. Perfect has a girlfriend, then, he isn't quite "perfect" at all, is he? I mean, what "perfect" man would attempt to cheat on his girlfriend with another woman who also has a boyfriend?
You are setting yourself up for a whole mess of drama. If you he is willing to leave or cheat on his GF with you and you are doing the same to your BF, then, neither of you are ever going to be trust worthy. Even, if you both end up in a relationship, together....The possibilities of you or him straying again to someone else once the passion and lust subside is pretty high.
If you aren't attracted to your BF anymore, then, it is a sign that you are ready to move on from your relationship. Then, again, it could be that you just need to spice up your love life with your current man and the old kind of loving just isn't working anymore. This happens - A LOT.......Relationships take time and effort to keep that spark going. Passion, lust and want just don't happen on their own.....It has to be refreshes and spiced up.....
I do not condone cheating. Nor, do I condone wasting someone's time when it comes to matters of the heart. If you truly want to call it quits with your man, then, do him the favor and stop wasting his time.
And, make the best and wise decision for yourself when it comes to pursuing someone else's man.......Because, you wouldn't want that done to you.
Good luck....
~ M
