AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question Been with my man 10 years, married 4. Adore him. Just contacted by an old crush. My big 'one that got away' love. Have the opportunity to meet up with him with no one but us knowing. Don't want to have a relationship with this man-whore, but so want so get him out of my system and be ok with letting him go. Ah- would so try to love him and make him love me forever if I didn't have kids, but can no longer do anything just for me, but for this one night he could be mine. How do I walk away again? It's been almost 15 years and I'm still crushing hard on this boy! And this is knowing he would break me in the end cause he would love me crazy for a minute and then get bored and move on. I KNOW THIS! Yet so want to claim him as mine for just one moment.
Answer It's been 10 years...You have a family, a husband.
We ALL have our Mr. Big......And, if we could have one night with him, we would give up everything in a heart beat for that moment. But, that is all it is, a moment. And, if that is worth losing everything you have worked so hard for.....Then, in the end, it is your choice.
I do not condone cheating. And, I understand how much this past love means to you. But, if he wasn't part of your future back then, there is no reason for him to be a part of your future now. Having a secret get together will only hurt you in the end. And, it will haunt you. Just like his "ghost" has been haunting you all these years.
If you truly adore your husband, then, you owe some him fidelity & respect and appreciation for everything he has done for you in your life. Not pay him back with such a betrayal.
Think about your family, not yourself.
And, believe me, I would move heaven and hell to spend one moment with the love of my life....But, not at the expense of others' lives or feelings......
Please choose your decision wisely......And, I wish you strength.....
Take care...
~ M
