AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question i have been with my Boyfriend for four years, he just recently cheated on me. we have had problems in our relationship before about this. i have cheated on him twice when we were dating early. this is his second time too. i thought we were okay until this! now i am being really clingy and we argue all the time. i really don't know what to do. i love him so much and i want to work things out, but how do i stop being so clingy??? please help!!
Answer The problem that I see here is that the trust in your relationship is not there. The respect isn't there. Which makes it very hard to have any boundaries of respect towards each other. Past hurts and injustices are used as reasons to condone current behavior and all it does is create more problems and insecurity. You being clingy has a lot to do with trust. You don't trust him and you aren't secure enough with yourself to stop this behavior. You took him back after he cheated on you before and he did the same when you did it to him.
There is no respect towards one another. And, if this issue is not addressed the cycle will continue. Perhaps, you need couples counseling or a break from each other to figure out your feelings for each other.
Talk things out, address each other's concerns and set boundaries for each other when it comes to respect and love. Love should be 50/50.....
Not, a battle to see who can hurt the other the most.....
Good luck...Best wishes....
~ M
