Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Melissa Durazo

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#1 wrote at 2009-04-23 10:36:17
how have you lost attraction to him? is it his physical body, has he let himself go, or has his mental state changed, becomes ruder or acts differently?



you need to spice up your life, and its to blame on his side entirely, the man and i say this from my own experience entirely, is almost always theone that has to initiate sexual activity, by being, romantic, or by being seductive, sure you could show up in a frilly outfit, but if you dont get "that feeling" for him, all your really doing is making yourself his toy for the evening.



you need to try to get the point accross to him that he needs to start picking up the slack, get it to him that he needs to do things that get you off for you to be attracted to him and WANT him.



but going for this new person is not the answer if he is willing to cheat, or you are too, because as m said it makes you both untrustworthy,





HOWEVER, if the case is, you met, you really like eachother, but you both say you are in serious relationships, and your not willing to lose your own integrity to cheat, and you can break up and see eachother, without cheating on the other partner then that is also fine.



and an idea, me and my gf found a way that kindof kick starts our libido(this once, were we both felt the way you do, about eachother, we just didnt have any flare) a swing, a talked about swing might be a good idea, if everyone is up for it, to kindof see the grass on the other side to say, its not exactly cheating, its a facilitated event, and i found it worked fantastic, neither of us finished with the swinger we had either, i ran out into the hall to find her just coming out of the room "that was fast"-"i never finished" and then we had one of the most memorable evenings, ever since weve been great

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