AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question My boyfriend of almost to year and I are in a long distance relationship but we always talk at least once a week on the weekend. Yesterday he told me that he slept with another girl once a couple of months ago. He said that he's really sorry and he still love me. I'm so confused right now of what to do. Should I stay with him, forgive and forget, or should I walk away from this relationship? I really do love him but I don't know how I can trust him again after being betrayed like this.
Answer Well, it depends on how many times he has cheated on you and with how many women this has happened with. If this is his only time and it was on a whim....His honesty shows that he at least respects you enough to know the truth - whether it hurts you or not. Otherwise, he could have kept it secret and kept on cheating.....
You are hurt and you are angry. You have every right to feel this way.
His actions were wrong. And, if you are confused, then, perhaps you both require a break. The long distance thing really makes matters harder, because, you can't be physically together to work it out. And, if you are only speaking to each other once a week,the temptation to cheat is quite high. With all this technology out there, you should be in contact almost every day.....Emails, picture messages, text, online messenger, webcams.....There is no reason to not be in each others life and keep the flames of love and passion open to each other through communication.
If you and him truly want to work it out, then, I recommend opening the lines of communication often. To keep each other in your thoughts and hearts.
If this is something he is prone to doing, being a serial cheater, then, you need to figure he is a lost cause...Other than that, I do not see why you couldn't make it work.....The hurt takes times to heal. He betrayed you and he will have show you over time that you can trust him again. Just don't allow him to make you feel like it was your fault he cheated....He has to take responsibility and do the right thing....
Good luck....
~ M
