AboutMelissa Durazo Expertise I will not help you cheat, so please do not ask me how to. If you are having issues with a cheater or suspect your mate of cheating, then, I can help you deal with the issue.
I may have the answers on how to confront and deal with a cheating man or woman. I can answer questions concerning the physical and mental anguish that a cheating mate can cause. advise how to move on from this type of relationship. Or, advise on how to forgive and work on fulfilling a new start. I can also help in recognizing the signs and lies of a cheater. As well, as how to catch one in the act.
Experience I was in a 10 yr. relationship, in which the last 3 years of it was nothing but lies, cheating & emotional abuse. I almost lost my job, my friends and family because I could not let go of this co-dependent relationship. I went through a life changing experience and I came out realizing that I was stronger than I thought I was. I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness and well being. I also learned, that I will make mistakes, I will fall down, but, in the end, it's how I face the problem that will get me through the day.......
Education/Credentials The school of Life. Life is all the education I have ever needed.
Question I am set to get married 5/30/09. My fiancee was married before & cheated on his wife @ the time w/her daughter for 2yrs. the only reason it ended was because his son found them & told his mom. This alone has always been in the back of my mind, what kind of person could do that. A couple of weeks ago I found out he had a profile on a dating website. When I confronted him he denied it until there was no denying, then he said he thought I was cheating so he went to find me. Sounds like a lot of BS since there are so many sites how would he know which one I was on? He also filled it out like he was really searching. If it was so innocent why not just admit it or tell me about it right after doing it? I mean I am 37& he is 41 sounds pretty immature. If someone that was able to do that to his previous wife of 11yrs w/her own daughter for 2yrs w/o telling his wife be able to live a life w/o cheating? And does the whole dating website sound like he could be telling the truth? Thanks
Answer His actions just don't sound honest and right. And, he cheated on his first wife with her daughter? Not to mention he has a dating profile while he is suppose to be engaged to you....
You have gotten warning signs and you have doubt about him being trust worthy.
You don't sound too sure about marrying him since he has given you too much reason not to trust him. Perhaps, postponing the wedding or taking a break will help you figure things out. But,at the moment, marrying him NOW, doesn't sound like a good idea to me. His shadiness is too suspicious and you don't deserve this kind of hurt and feeling that you are experiencing. Take of you first......
I know you are looking forward to your wedding, but, you need to look out for yourself first....
Good luck....
~ M
