Expert: Kate Rosling - 10/8/2010

Question
Hi there, so I have an issue which bothers me a lot concerning my boyfriend. We are both (in my opinion) very young to have a serious relationship. I am 19 and he is 20. We have been together for 2 years and been living together for about 6 months. I love him and I know he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. Don't get me wrong I do too, but for the 2 years I have been with him the sex wasn't what I would call satisfying (I have never had an orgasm with him). He is the only person I had sex with and recently I started wondering if maybe I want to experiment more with other guys. There is one in particular whom I like. I am tempted to cheat on my boyfriend with him but I don't want to break up with him. I need advice regarding this considering the fact that I don't really think I can ask for an open relationship due to the fact that we are living together. Please help me.

Answer
Hi Ana.

Maybe you should experiment with your boyfriend first.  There are all kinds of different positions and methods you could use during sex that may have better results.  Sometimes though, people happen to be the wrong "fit" for each other.  If you love him, don't ruin that by cheating on him.

If you experiment and still are unsatisfied, maybe you guys can try swinging.  This is a good way to spice things up.