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I still have feelings for my ex. I broke up with her 9 months ago. I also started to date others. We haven't spoken for the past 2 months her new GF of 7 months now wont allow her to see me. Well last night my ex and I hung out and we had sex. She said she felt nothing and is very much in love with her new GF. She said she made a stupid mistake and should have never done it. I don't feel the same. She has never cheated on anyone in her life. I broke her heart months ago. She say's I linger every once in awhile and she is nervous to call her new GF my name. I never cheated on her we broke up cause we fought a lot and didn't work. Why would she make out with me for hours and allow me to sleep with her twice in one night. She say's she really loves her new GF. And I didn't say anything bad about her new relationship I listened to her all night how much she loves her. Is there a chance we can be together how can I get her back.
Things are eventually going to sour. If not in months than in a year or so. She will foolishly admit to her that she cheated, or something else will happen. If you want your lady back... just wait. If it's meant to be like you feel, if it is real love you'll get her back, probably the second it ends with her.
To speed it up be available to her, listen and be a friend to her, she will get comfortable talking about her problems and then one day come to you when they have a real one. Be there, be a friend. Don't criticize the other. Just be a friend. Don't offer advice. You get what I'm saying? Listen to her.
As for your current lady... just save your ex's number under a name she wouldn't suspect "Wells Fargo" or "Uncle Ben" and make sure to delete your texts and calls.
The goal is to not cheat anyway - not physically - it's to be a friend to someone you care about, with the intention of regaining their trust for a relationship
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Just keep patience babe, and enjoy the relationship you have too! Don't waste the girls time! Show her a fun time and treat her as well as you can in the meantime.
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Elise
Expertise
I can answer questions ranging from why someone would cheat, how to get away with it, and most importantly in recognizing when your motives are not the correct ones. I can help with someone who is unsure with their feelings and recognize when someone should be talked out of doing something they will regret. When dealing with those who are hurt by a cheater in their life, I am sensitive to their condition and answer questions from "the other side of the fence" in a way that focuses on the importance of not taking it as personally as many do. I will also emphasize the importance of not emotionally abusing your partner while cheating, and how to appropriately accept the consequences and not hurt your partner further if caught. There is a big difference between emotional cheating and physical cheating and I am quick to point out when someone is taking advantage of their partner by cheating emotionally, versus someone who is not satisfied but still deeply loves their partner.
Experience
I am a woman who is a firm believer in open relationships and can justify against any argument with well thought out and accurate information backing my position. In rare occasions I have been in a relationship in which my mate did not support the lifestyle. I have resorted to cheating on at least 3 partners with frequency, and was never found to have done so. I believe that humans are not by nature monogamous, and find nothing wrong with multiple partners. I strongly encourage safe practices, and proper hygiene. I also believe strongly in accepting the consequences that cheating entails, and not hurting the person you are with.
Education/Credentials
Just some psychology classes in college, including sexuality in society.
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