Expert: Don - 10/17/2007

Question
I've lived with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Last summer, he went out one night but forgot to close out his yahoo. Tons of messages came up from girls in our area that he was talking sex talk to and planning on meeting. He said he went to work that night, but when I called crying, he came home. We moved past it that time. He said nothing physical ever happened and he agreed to give me access to his phone records and so forth. Things were good for a while but last week, I caught him again. After 10 lame excuses, he admitted that he "knew" her. 66 messages including pictures in one day is more than knowing that person. Since he is working out of town 4 days a week and she lives out there, I don't beleive him. At this point, we own a house and 2 cars together. He told me he wants to make it work. He said he will quit his job and find a new one. But is it time I said no more? If not how do I get past this?

Answer
Well if you keep letting him get away with it over and over again then he's going think it's okay and continue to do it.

So if you really are going make it work with him, then you need to make it clear that this type of thing can never happen again and if it does, you have to stand by your word and actually break up with or leave him, but if you continue to catch him cheating and do nothing about it, he's going think that he can get away with it anytime he wants and continue to do it.