Expert: Sam E - 2/23/2007

Question
my boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months. He has a very close female friend who in the back of my mind I always felt eery about. But he always said they were nothing more than friends and she was like a sister to her. So I trusted him 100%... until the other night. I saw in his phone that he had text messaged her saying "im not gonna have sex"... when i asked him about it, he said she has aked him to have sex before but he swore that he has never touched her. I want to believe him, but even if he has never been with her, he has a girl in his life that wants him. She is one of only a couple close people in his life and I don't want to tell him not to see her. He's mad at me now because I looked at his phone, and I'm upset because he doesnt realize why I am so upset about this girl. What can I do?

Answer
I DON’T THINK HE HAD SEX WITH HER BUT SINCE SHE HAS ASKED HIM TO, HE NEEDS TO CUT ALL TIES WITH HER. HE MAY THINK OF HER LIKE A SISTER BUT SHE DOESN’T HAVE THE SAME FEELINGS. ASK HIM IF HE WOULD BE OKAY WITH A GUY ASKING YOU FOR SEX AND YOU STILL MAINTAINED A FRIENDSHIP WITH HIM. I’M SURE HE WOULD NOT LIKE IT! ASK HIM HOW THAT WOULD MAKE HIM FEEL. HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND NOW AND HER INAPPROPRIATE QUESTION TELLS ME THAT THEY ARE NOT CLOSE LIKE BROTHER AND SISTER AND HE NEEDS TO LET HER GO.
WRITE ME ANYTIME!!
SAM