Expert: Don - 10/23/2007

Question
I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. For the past few days I had felt sick to my stomach and knew something was wrong. When I talked to her about it. She told me that she slept with a co-worker. I really dont know what to do. I love this girl. I would love to still be with her. But I dont know if there is any possibility of our relationship ever being the same again. Everytime I think about it, it makes me queasy. I know I will never be able to trust her again. Thats why I dont think the relationship could work. Whats your advice?

Answer
If you really feel like you could never trust her again, then you need to break up with her. Relationships are built on trust and can't survive if there is no trust between the two people involved. If you don't trust her at all or can never trust her again, all you'll do is drive yourself crazy. Everytime she goes out, you'll be worried that she is cheating on you again, and that's not healthy for you or the relationship.

Since you don't think you can ever trust her again, I think it would be in your best interest to break up with her and move on.