Expert: Don - 7/18/2007

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QUESTION: Hello,
I have being going out with my boyfriend for two and half years and everything was fine, the families meet and we knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, until one day he calls to say that he wants some space and he  will call when he ready, but my i knew something was wrong, and i asked him if he cheating on me and he keep on saying no.eventually i caught him cheating on me and i felt like such a fool to my family and friends. he told me everything how he had slept with her, what they did and he even told me that he liked her!!
i just wanted him so badly back and i took him back.i tried to block the cheating but now it finally caught up with me.my family doesn't want us together and i must between him and my family and if i chose him we must get married and i am not ready for that.
i love him so much and i don't want to with anyone else. we share so much.
i really don't know what to do? my heart says him but my head says move on , but it is so hard to that.
please help should i take him back?

ANSWER: It's time to move on, he's not trustworthy and you don't want to drive yourself crazy worrying about what he is up to or who he is cheating on you with.

Plus you don't want to lose your family over a man that might dump you for another woman at any time.

It's time to move on and find somebody else who you can trust and will respect you enough not to cheat on you.

I hope this helped and good luck

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QUESTION: its so hard to do just move on, he was my first serious boyfriend and i share alot with me, i am at my wit ends all i do is cry and cry. i cant eat sleep and even think something my mind so far away and sometimes i wish i just die.
i feel like he ruined apart of me and yet i still want him back so badly.
i don't think that i can ever be with anyone else, i cant imagine anyone else touching or kissing me, and i think that why i find it so hard to move on, because we share so much.

Answer
Well then go back with him if that's what you want. I'm tired of people crying to me about going back to people who treated them like crap. If you don't have any respect for yourself and are crying over a guy who cheated on you and who really doesn't care about you, then run back to him and let him abuse you over and over and over again.

Just know this he will cheat on you again and when he does you have no right to be upset or cry because you brought it on yourself, you picked this life for yourself because you didn't love yourself enough to leave a man who was bad for you.