Expert: Don - 9/12/2007

Question
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2yrs. We have a 10 month old
daughter and im pregnant again. Every since we been going out i have always had
a problem with him and other females. He always hides his phone from me and puts
it on vibrate when im around. If somebody calls he might answer but most of the
time he says he dosent know who it is and he is not going to answer. I have
caught him a couple of times cheating but he always claims that he will change.
I know he has cheated alot more than i caught him but every time i catch him he
either denys it or make it seem like he is the victim and its my fault. Last
week once again i found his phone and caught him cheating again. He promised
that he was going 2 change this time. I said i would give him one more chance.
But last night i called his phone and he didnt answer so i decided to check his
voicemail (He gave me the password). Not to my surprise he was caught again. I
broke up with him. He got mad and started denying it and said i was jumping to
conclusions but i know what i heard. He made it seem like it was my fault. Now
he is actin like he is the victim. His method actually works by making it seem like its all my fault. I dont want to get back with him but i dont wanna stay away from him.

Answer
If you don't leave him then you might as well get use to a life of him lying and cheating on you. The reason he continues to cheat on you is because you keep letting him get away with him. Every time you catch him you give him another chance and at this point you have given him so many chances that he knows that you'll always give him another one.

So if you really want him to change you need to break up with him for real and make it a long break, I'm not saying don't ever go back with him but you have to at least scare him enough to think that you might really leave him forever. If you don't he'll just keep cheating because he knows you won't really break up with him anyway.

It's time to let him go at least for a little while.

I hope this helped and good luck.