Expert: Craig - 10/11/2001

Question
She has cheated before and I forgave here but I am constantly finding things that just dont add up.

I think she might be doing it again but it is hard to catch her because she knows I am looking.  

What can I do, she is good and always comes up with very good excuses!

Answer
okay here goes...

1. hire a PI
2. tape her conversations
3. follow her yourself

if you feel uncomfortable, then you have reasons...trust your intuition

if you find out she is cheating...leave her, no accusations, no evidence, nothing...walk out...

best you don't confront a liar or you'll be caught in their web about giving them another chance or feeling guilty becasue you don't trust them...

the point is, you don't trust her...
the point is, she is a habitual liar
the point is, she knows how to play the game and get away with it
the point is, you are helplessly codependent to her nad you give her "unconditional postive regard"...you want to believe in her...

you sound like a good man....please consider not wasting your life on rescuing this woman if you get any type of evidence that proves she is cheating...have a life and a have a life without trying to get her to own her problem, that is HER PROBLEM...

once you get answers...no more following her, no more questions, no confrontation, no more explanations...as an accomplished liar, she has an excuse for everything you can dream up...she is ready...

the book...Never Be Lied to Again...on Amazon...will give you the ways to develop a line of question to expose cheaters and other liars...read it if you dare...

good luck, keep me posted...caaahmad@yahoo,com

Craig