Expert: Don - 7/17/2007

Question
My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year and have been living together for 10 months. He's in the military and travels alot. I do trust him and i know he hasn't cheated on me but right before he left to go on course he joined a swingers website called ashleymadison. I told him how much it bothered me, he said it was for more of a joke and then he deleted it. Now he is working close to home and comes home on the weekends i was recently talking with a friend of mine that lives in another province and she mentioned to me that while he was away they were having late night conversations on msn. I'm not the jealous type but from the stories that she's shared she has no problem sleeping with married men. I asked my boyfriend about it and he said it was harmless conversation and she was drunk most of the time. I'm not sure if i'm being overly paranoid or if this is the beginning of him looking into the benifits of cheating. He's told me he would never cheat on me as he was cheated on by his ex girlfriend. I just want to cover my butt because i have been hurt in the past. I want to know if i'm making too much out of out of two isolated incidents.

Answer
I think you're making to much out of it. Sometimes I seriously hate the Internet because people like you point to much value into what happens on the Internet. Having a conversation on MSN is in no way close to him cheating on you. Even looking at swingers website is no way close.

Stop worrying about the Internet, when he starts physically meeting people in person, then start to worry but until then don't turn something as silly as what happens on the Internet into a fight between the two of you.

I hope this helped and good luck.