Expert: RITA - 12/2/2004

Question
Hi,

I wish to confess that i did something unethical, i checked my girlfriends email and i saw clear evidence that she keeps another boyfriend.

Granted she complained about somethings which i still refuse to change but now i am deeply hurt.

I have told her i am suspecting her and she strongly denies. And i know that if i told her about the mails she would get hysterical that i sneaked on her and would use all that to defend. But thats the evidence i have. By the way she gave me her password 2 years ago but i am sure she has forgotten she did so.

pleaase advise on how to deal with the situation

thanks

Answer
Hi Chris
You should go ahead and tell her what you did, because getting a straight answer from her wasn't going to happen. She'll be mad, of course, and try to use it to defend herself, but so what! She should have been honest with you to begin with and you would have never done what you did to get to the truth.
People who are guilty of lying get mad....people who have nothing to hide, do not.
Take care