Expert: Don - 12/20/2007

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QUESTION: My fiance started his new job about 10 months ago. Sometimes he would mention the "Lab girls"...so I got curious one day & asked if he thought one of them was attractive or something & he got all flustered & stuff, so that made me suspicious. Since then he hasnt talked about them. Recently we went to his work christmas party & this girl kept looking across the room at me but trying to act like she was just looking around & I said something to my fiance and he kept looking around at the females acting like he couldnt see her, then finally i pointed directly to her and he said, oh she is one of the "lab girls". I KNEW IT. He works the 4pm to 2 am shift everyday and she works a normal day shift i believe, but he goes in at 3:30pm(he says he likes to clock in early) and sometimes doesnt even get home til 3-3:30 a.m. do you think there is something going on? Or maybe she just has a thing for him & thats why she was looking at me, I dont know. I have weird gut feelings constantly.

ANSWER: I think something is definitely going on between the two of them. The reason she kept looking at the two of you is because she is jealous of the time the two of you get to spend together. She is just waiting for you to be out of the picture so she can have him all to herself. The two of them have probably been sneaking around behind your back for months.

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QUESTION: Well I have confronted him about it, sure that something is going on and he breaks down & cries & says how much he loves me & our family (we have a baby girl) & that he would never ever cheat on me. The most recent time I asked him about it he was all sad & was like "Well do you want me to leave?" I just dont know, he IS one of the most sensative genuine people I know but that doesnt mean he wont stray right?

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There is your proof right there, why would he break down and cry for no reason. He cried because he is feeling guilty for cheating on you with his co-worker. And he wanted you to tell him to leave so he wouldn't feel bad about abandoning his family. If you keep him it out then it makes it seem like you're the bad guy for dumping him and he won't feel as bad for leaving you for another woman.