Expert: Don - 4/20/2007

Question
QUESTION: I have been with my girlfriend for over two years now. Last June she went un north to stay with her bestfriend for a week and while she was away she cheated on me with this guy named Curtis, well that almost killed me. i didn't find out for sure until a little while after but before i  found out she went to this party got fucked up and cheated on me again with this guy i have known since before i knew here and i only found out about that like 2 weeks ago i know your probably just going to tell me to leave her but i really don't think i can do that and even though this bothers me every single day i think i would rather do that than not be with her at all. What do i do?
ANSWER: You have two choices.

One leave her and be done with it.

But since you said you don't want to do that you only have one other choice and that's to stay and except the fact that she cheats on you. She obviously doesn't care about you or respect you if she continues to cheat on you. It's not like she did it once and was sorry for it, she's done it numerous times. And since she knows you aren't man enough to dump her for doing it she's just going keep on doing it.

So there you have it, either break up with her and move on and find a girl you can actually trust, or stay with her and keep feeling sorry for yourself while she continues to cheat on you.

I hoped this helped and good luck

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QUESTION: It's not that i ain't man enough to dump her its that i think i would feel even worse without her with me and if  i try to leave her i might not get her back and what if i was to regret dumping her

Answer
So you'd rather be with a person who cheats on you repeatedly, then not be with her. I don't know how that makes any sense. Why would you miss a person who makes you feel bad by cheating on you?

I don't know what else to tell you man, if you can be happy with her even if she cheats then stay with her. I know I couldn't do it.

Good luck either way