Expert: Sam E - 3/29/2007

Question
Here's my problem. My girlfriend and i have been going out for just about a year now. I am active duty military stationed about 800 miles away from her. I only see her once a month if i am lucky. I haven't cheated. I've thought about it though. I know i love her though, is this just me wanting someone to be there with me or is there something wrong with me?

Answer
The old saying that distance makes the heart grow fonder is purely make believe. Fact is, distance makes it out of sight out of mind! Loneliness can play a very crucial role in cheating.
Your not crazy or bad person. You are lonely and maybe even a little frightened. I think you know that cheating would make you feel 1000 times worse so steer clear of that. What you can do is write her and let her know how lonely and sad you are. Tell her you would love more letters. If you have access to emails and can call her do that more often! I also suggest that she send you some sexy photos of herself or even write you some sexy letters. Although you can’t be with her sexually that may help.
I hope this helps and write back anytime!
Sam