Expert: Don - 12/21/2007

Question
I am currently deployed in Iraq and me and my girlfriend have had a good relationship before the deployment. Ever since i have left for Iraq she has done things that i didn't like or approve of while being out here. She joined a sorority she goes out to parties all the time with her sisters to frat. parties and she just got her boobs done. There is this guy on her myspace that is always writing her that is definitely trying to come on to her and I don't know if she is talking to him. When i call her from over here she wont answer. I don't call her a thousand times because i ain't like that. What should I do about this situation? It is hard enough that I am over here serving the country and what I do over here makes it a lot more stressful. What do you think?

Answer
There is nothing you can do to stop her from doing whatever she wants to do because you are so far away. You need to forget about what she is doing and focus on remaining safe over there in Iraq. You need to take her actions as a warning, that maybe she isn't the girl for you seeing as how as soon as you leave for a minute, she's already doing everything you don't like. You can't control a woman though, even if you were home she is going do whatever she wants to do. You have to remember you're her boyfriend not her boss, you can't stop her from doing what she wants to do.

Just try to ignore her actions for now and focus on making it home from there, when you get back then deal with her actions.