Expert: Sam E - 5/24/2007

Question
How do I forget this? The story is he started treating me like crap for no reason,I couldnt understand it, he got a new cell and was always on the computer. One day I caught him checking his mail on myspace and it was some girl he told me it was his sister but I knew it wasnt, I asked about her and he got severly mad and was calling me horrible names saying I was controlling.One day he didnt come home from work,I'm also 4 months pregnant with his child.I was so worried .So it ends up he left me that day and stayed with his friend Todd.Meanwhile he would still call me and tell me he loved me.I found out he had an alternate myspace he never added me to.That same girl was on there . The truth finnally came out when he came back to me a week later that he was having phone sex with her and planned to move to a different state.This only happened a few weeks ago.I cant get over it but I want to . But it just keeps running through my head what did I do wrong?She keeps sending me nasty email telling me he doesnt love me or the baby.I want to work things out with him because he says he wants to, im deeply in love with him and for the baby.I just need some good advise ,should I even go on with this? Im really depressed and thinking about it is to much stress for me i get physically ill just thinking that he might leave me again and really have sex with someone or if he is now.Is there anyway to get this off my mind,because well never be able to be really together if i cant and i cant keep doing this to myself.

Answer
It doesn’t sound like he is that into you and that you should waste anymore time with him.
He is obviously moved on and you should to. You and the baby deserve better than this guy! Plus, you don’t need all the stress. You need to think about your baby and what’s best. This guy is just wasting your time and will end up hurting you. I know moving on is hard but you’ll thank yourself later.
I was in the same boat as you are and I didn’t want to let go even though the boat was sinking! I finally realized that he may be the father of my son but he is no good for me! It was hard but after a while I moved on and found true love! I found a man who loves and respects me and my son would NEVER hurt me! That is love! There is nothing wrong with you, its all him! He just doesn’t want you. Leave this guy alone. Break all contact and move on,
Hope this helps
Sam