Expert: Drea Jean - 5/29/2006

Question
I am 17 and my boyfriend is 20. We have known each other since I was 14, it has been quite a tumultus relationship- and he does not trust me because when we have broken up I have kissed other people. He says that my vagina feels different, but I have never ever had sex with anyone else. He accuses me of being a slag and cheating on him but I never have. How can I make him trust me? Can my vagina feel different if I haven't cheated?

Answer
Hi Juliette,

I hope you were looking for an honest answer, because thats what I am about to give you. If he is accusing you of cheating, and even going so far as to tell you your vagina feels diffrent (wich is impossible by the way, even if you had cheated) than chances are there will be nothing you can ever do or say that will make him trust you.

This isn't your fault. Kissing other people while you were broken up isn't really cheating. So as far as that goes, you havent really done anything to cause him to be suspicious, this is all stuff he has made up in his own mind, and unfortunatley, you wont be able to change it.

Now, you can reassure him of your love for him, that there has been and never will be anyone else, and that you are committed to him. If it doesn't stop, or gets worse, I think you need to re-evalute whether or not thats the kind of relationship you want, because he will likley never be able to trust you, and you did nothing to deserve that.

Good Luck and Thanks,

Drea Jean