Expert: Shauna - 4/23/2004

Question
I was on and off with my ex for 2yrs and I have moved on and happily dating my new man. While I was with my ex he had an ex of 5 yrs that I later found out he was cheating on(both of us). I feel really bad for her and I know he is thinking of marriage soon since all of his friends are married,etc...I wrote an anonymous letter to my ex's girl basically saying for your own good I want you to know that I have been with your bf and so I have heard a few other girls have(truth). I just dont think he should get away with this and the girl can either stay and face consequences of looking after him to see if he will cheat or she can move on to find someone more appreciative.
Of course I signed the letter Anonymous.
Is this letter in bad moral? I really just feeel bad for her; it's not even for revenge.
Also, the main reason he broke up on and off with her for 5yrs is b/c of relegion...his family will never accept her. (He is 30 and she is 22)
Should I mail the letter or not?

Answer
You are one of the very few girls that I have come across that actually has the heart to do that. Send it, send the later today. It is a great idea and knowing you were played to helps because you know how it feels and you obviously don't want anyone feeling the way you do. Send the letter and let's hope she follows your advice. If she seems like a nice girl, maybe you should talk to her over the phone at least or in person so she knows you are being honest and not making up anything.