Expert: Drea Jean - 4/26/2006

Question
Now i have one more question. Before i ask though, i have cut her out of my life 100%. I am disgusted by her and have no desire to talk to her or to see her. Even yesterday i went to get some of my imortant things back from her. i walked up grabbed them, and before she could even talk i was on my way back to my truck. And she starts saying well i gotta go as i slammed my door and drove away. she looked all pissed and stuff. But i felt relieved. I still love this girl with all of my heart. But i know it is time for me to be done. Im not saying i expect this to happen, but If she tries to come back to me, i dont know if i should tell her that it was over when she stabbed me in the back, or if i should give her a chance. If i did give her the chance, i would make her work for it and it would be an uphill battle for her big time, cuz she would have a lot of trust to earn back and i would have alot of forgiveness to fork out. It would be hard. but i always though that true love forgives all. So should i take her back or not?  

Answer
Hi again Eric,

Taking her back or not is compleltey your desicion. Maybe she will realize that this other guy is not what she wants, and you are. If you believe her, and I mean REALLY believe her, don't fall for any more lies. Keep your eyes open. And if you think she comes back to you for the right reasons, and you want to make it work, then go for it. If you do, remember that things may be hard for a little while, and make sure you both keep open conversations going. Tell her if she does anything that even SEEMS suspicious, you will want answers. And if she wants to make it work, she will give them to you. It is possible for relationships to heal after these kind of things happen, but it takes time and work. If you can do that, you can make it.

If you get the feeling she is only coming back to you to use you again, and she isn't going to stay around for the long run, you can kick her to the curb, OR, if you are vengeful, you can get back in it with her, knowing it's only for a good time and you have no future.

It's up to you, but go with your instincts. Most of the time they are right. And if it just feels wrong, or you think shes using you again, don't do it, you could be hurt. If she's sincere, and you feel good about it, jump in.

Good Luck to you, and Thanks!

Drea Jean

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